Day 551

3 min readSep 25


In a world that’s drowning in information, endless choices, and a whole lot of noise, one of the biggest challenges we face is figuring out where the hell to put our limited time and energy. I mean, seriously, we’re hit with options, opinions, and obligations left and right, and it’s like trying to catch a damn wave in a tsunami. So, how do we ride this chaotic wave and figure out what truly deserves our precious attention and care? Well, my friends, welcome to the subtle art of figuring out what to give a f*ck about.

Now, let’s kick this off with a bang — embrace your own mortality. Yeah, I know, it sounds dark and gloomy, but it’s a game-changer. When you come to terms with the fact that you’re not gonna be around forever, it slaps you in the face with the reality that you can’t possibly give a f*ck about everything under the sun. Take a moment to ponder what really matters in the grand scheme of things. What are your core values? What kind of legacy are you striving to leave behind? Starting from this deep, existential standpoint makes it a hell of a lot easier to sift through the noise and focus on what truly counts.

Next up, understanding your values. These aren’t just random words you throw around at a corporate team-building retreat. Nah, your values are the DNA of your life. They’re the compass that points you in the right direction. So, ask yourself some tough questions:

  • What lights your soul on fire and brings you pure, unadulterated joy?
  • What causes or issues hit you right in the gut?
  • When people talk about you long after you’re gone, what do you want them to remember you for?
  • And, perhaps most importantly, what are you willing to give up, sacrifice, or endure for the things you truly give a f*ck about?

Once you’ve nailed down your values, you’ve got yourself a roadmap for making decisions that actually align with your true north.

But here’s the kicker — figuring out what to give a f*ck about ain’t no spectator sport. It’s a full-contact, get-in-the-ring, no-holds-barred kind of journey. Real growth, self-discovery, and finding your purpose rarely happen when you’re chilling in your comfort zone. Nope, you gotta be willing to stare down your fears, challenge your beliefs, and venture into uncharted territory.

Don’t run from those tough conversations or dodge those gritty decisions. Sometimes, the stuff that matters most demands that you step into the ring of discomfort. Remember, discomfort is your buddy on this journey; it’s the signpost to growth. Embrace it like an old friend.

Now, let’s talk about the power of “no.” Saying “no” can be one of the most liberating things you do when you’re on the quest to figure out what to give a f*ck about. It’s not about being a Debbie Downer; it’s about setting boundaries and preserving your time and energy for the stuff that truly aligns with your values.

Learn to wield that “no” like a samurai sword, cutting down commitments, people, and activities that sap your life force or don’t jive with your core values. By doing this, you create a vacuum for the stuff that genuinely matters.

And guess what? You’re gonna screw up. You’re gonna fail. It’s just part of the game. But don’t treat those screw-ups as dead ends. Think of them as vital feedback. Every failure is like a neon sign pointing you toward what’s important. Embrace your failures, squeeze the wisdom out of them, and let them guide you on your journey.

So there you have it, anon. Unearth your values, set those boundaries, and let go of the stuff that doesn’t serve your higher purpose. When you do, you’ll discover that you’ve got the energy and the passion to give a f*ck about the things that truly light your fire. And trust me, that’s where the magic happens.


Conor Jay Chepenik




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